Mom, Dad! Cancer’s Here!

“Don’t open the door, unless you know who it is!” We teach our kids, “not to open the door to strangers”, we are quick to signal a no thank you, not a good time or not interested, to a knock from a salesperson, donation collector or the annoying kid down the street. When a loved one […]

The Day We Saw No Breast

I remember the cold white tiles of the bathroom floor below my feet. My arms held my robe closed tight. I stared at my feet and recall being grateful for my toes, all ten. I stared at my hands and my fingers as they somehow fell folded, closed perfectly. I realized I was praying. I […]

Sick Parents Don’t Know What They Need

  Don’t say it.  Don’t say, “Let me know what you need”.   I remember when people would say, “Hey, let me know what you need”, “Let me know what I can do to help”.  I wanted to say to them, “Yeah, let me just add that to the long-ass list of my to do’s. […]